Guy advice from a hopeless romantic- single-25 year old.

I have never gotten flowers from a boy, held hands in a movie theater, or kissed in the rain. I am a hopeless romantic with a strong independent woman mentality. Since I am single I thought it would be a good idea to give you my tips when it comes to guys:

1. A boy is not your savior. You should have one savior and one savior only and that’s Jesus Christ. I will say it once and I will say it again. A boy should complement you not complete you. You should be complete on your own and a boy should be enhancing those qualities. I cant wait to have my husband go get my oil changed. Until then I have to be independent enough to do it. You gotta know how to do things before him so you will be able to do things after him if need be.

2. Always leave them wanting more. Make them work for it honey. A little hard work never killed anybody and it surely wont kill him.

3. Never trust a man without a facebook. They are always hiding something. If you can not thouroughly stalk them on a public venue then they are probably hiding something like another girl or that they secretly a girl. And then youll end up on jerry springer.

4. Just because the sun went down does not mean your standards do. My momma always told me that nothing good happens after midnight. And she has been right every time I have tested this. I also had an amazing guy friend tell me once that guys rise to the standards you have set for them and for yourself. You want to be a hussy with a guy then he is going to let you be the hussy because that is the standard you set. Best be believing though, his respect for you is down the drain because you had no respect for yourself. Keep them standards in check.

5. Be their best friend first. You got to. The best relationships are built off of friendships first.

6. Once a liar always a liar. Seriously don’t think they will ever change. Just like once a cheater always a cheater. And you let them get away with it once, kiss your honest relationship goodbye. You want to constantly be a self proclaimed private investigator because you are constantly seeing where yo man is? No trust is a dead end.

7. Ignore everything a guy says and pay attention only to what he does. A persons heart and character are based off of actions not words. I love you can be said ten seconds after he does something awful. He can make promises all day but, you have to see if he follows through. How he acts is what matters.

8. You cannot save a boy. He can only save himself. I cannot tell you how many times I have saved a guy and they are still a hot mess and have a piece of my heart in return. Its great to help a guy but you cant save them. They have to save themselves. I now have a handful of guys who are still in my life might I add because you cant just abandon them but who I couldn’t be in a relationship with because I had to save them. Yall aint no lifeguards, no one is saving anyone. Unless you want you reenact the cute scene from the sandlot.

9. If he likes you youll know if he doesn’t youll be confused. If you have to guess for one second if a guy likes you because you are confused. Leave him. A guy who is worth it will never let his girl question his motives or end game. He will make it clear how he feels about you. You are much better than a guy leaving you confused. The guy who is worth it will be instagramming the mess out of you not sending you a one word text everyday. You better than that girl.

10. You don’t win when you play guys games. You win when you make them play yours. Guys play games all the time and I am sure they find plenty of girls who play their games. You however need to be the coach. Aint nobody got time for games. And that guy is going to respect you a lot more when he realizes that you don’t have time for them and he can get on board or get off the train. Promise you he’ll be getting a ticket to that train.

A lot of my friends say I am a hopeless romantic with my standards too high. I am a hopeless romantic. I keep my head in the clouds because of great books and Audrey Hepburn movies. But, my standards are not too high. I have watched too many friends in horrible relationships, or divorces because they practically had no standards at all. Don’t rush just because you think you have to enter that stage of your life. Stop. Take it back. Heck “go steady” with someone. Bring back the actually dating. Wait for those flowers, that phone call, kisses in the rain, and even a love note. Hopeless romanticism isn’t dead because guys are tools. Its dead because we let them become tools. When did we start to settle? Ill be single the rest of my life before I settle. Remember, the only thing that should be higher than your standards is your hair. My prince charming is out there and he will gladly show me what a great guy is.

Lesson of the story: If he cant handle you when you ugly cry over a movie without make-up on knee deep in ben and jerrys then he aint the one.